Parents in pajama pants parked in the NO PARKING zone. Rolling out of their mini-vans and SUVs with cigarettes stuck in their lips. Red Bull or pop in their hands, yelling at their kids as they walk toward the school. Or worse yet, saying nothing as they tap away at their fucking iPhones, checking Facebook or participating in dimwitted conversation. They stink like smoke and laziness and provide ever-so-sweet examples of how to act in the world by throwing their butts into the street, spitting on the sidewalk, or marching through a sea of kids as if they are royalty, which of course they are not. But entitlement facilitates a skewed perception of reality. People begin believing they are more important and deserving than they really are. And so, we create a generation of mediocrity. And I stand at my kids’ locker feeling pretty certain that my son and daughter, nine and six respectively, can add, subtract, spell and make more sense of the world than these assholes can. And then, I feel sad because I know that no matter how hard the kids of these parents will try, they have the cards stacked against them.
People get rough starts. People have problems. But there is no excuse for being a poor role model for your children. There is no excuse for not thinking of others. People will argue that it is education, but I disagree. The heart, the soul, it knows right from wrong. It wants to be loved. To please. To be known. It holds doors and says thank you. It recognizes its weaknesses and works to gain strength, to be good.
How many of these kids with dumbass parents will grow up and really live?
Just because you were abused as a child—sexually, physically, mentally or emotionally—it does not give you the right to be a shit head.
Just because you are economically challenged, it doesn’t mean you cannot present yourself as clean and caring.
Just because you have been wronged, it does not mean that you cannot do what’s right—time and time again.
Everything can be overcome and it is our duty to evolve. Yes, we must understand. Certainly, we must empathize. But in the end it all boils down to how much effort you put—not into yourself and your goals—but into the world, into others, so that good has enough weight to keep winning.